Feeling dry. No. That's not the word. I don't know how to describe what's happening here. I want to blog, but I feel so tired. My kids are here this weekend. It's been raining since last night (and really, that is a good thing for the parched earth in this corner of the world), but the rain means that we haven't gone out today. And I sit here and teeter between Allan and my kids. They are still not ready to have a conversation with him, and I can't push it.
Last evening my friends Pascal and Stephanie and their daughter N. came for an apéritif dînatoire. They also came to get "Alf," the kitten that I'd taken in for a week or so.
Cookie is a bit depressed now that her playmate has gone. Slick is still here, but when they play he gets, um, horny, and she doesn't like that. Must. Call. Vet.
It's not raining anymore. There's a turkey-vegetable casserole in the oven -- comfort food for bad weather. The three people I love most in this world are each doing their own thing here. They have one thing in common: they're all hungry. I always manage to time it so that people are STARVED by the time the meal is served.
Bon apétit !
jo etvagyot ( hungarian again )
Posted by: Alain | September 25, 2005 at 06:56
they'll start talking eventually. it takes a while. that's ok.
Posted by: madame l. | September 25, 2005 at 12:48
Food is the great equalizer. It does take time to feel comfortable with people, from a kid's point of view.
Posted by: Margaret | September 25, 2005 at 13:40
Jeez, I feel for Allan. And for you. It will happen when you least expect it. Meantime, engage your crowd of kids and Allan in activities where everyone can participate. If the kids will agree to that of course.
Crap, what do I know? I'm single and only dated single dads. Just hang in there; I'm rooting for you guys :)
Posted by: Carrie | September 26, 2005 at 01:00
Glad to see one of my favorite couples together again!
As for this post, am there, doing that. Actually, Michelle's boys and I chat some, but frankly, the conversations are rarely deep. I think that's OK though. As the lovely BHD says, "time takes time". I agree with looking for activities all can enjoy and maybe a little sunshine will help that process along. Off the top of my head...fly a kite, talk about/listen to music, talk about books...I hear Harry P-something is popular, um, any indoor gardening needed?, rent a comedy, board games...
Good luck. View any little conversation, no matter how trivial, as progress. They'll come around!
Posted by: Yibbyl | September 27, 2005 at 23:44
hey, thought i'd check out your blog. i'm not really a blog person. it's kinda interesting, i guess. it's like keeping a journal/diary, except that the whole world can see it while you're still alive, and comment on it. i'm waiting til i'm dead for the world to read my thoughts and figure out what kind of person i really am. hee hee. so now i'll participate in this interactive journal...
ali, we haven't been in touch in quite awhile. a lot has happened in both of our lives in that time. i'm not sure what to make of your blog. i guess my response to "meh" is to prioritize your kids. it's quite understandable that they are not yet ready to talk to allan. things have happened fast. there is time in life for everything, and no need to rush anything. try to objectify your feelings and be aware of all the risks involved in whatever situation you find yourself in. listen to all the advice of others (good or bad) and objectify it also.
of course, these comments of mine are subjective, having only read the ramblings of your subconscious and not having a real conversation with you.
anyhoo, i love you. please say hello to the kiddies.
-booby
ps-- you have my real email address. don't try writing to the one above.
Posted by: booby gonzales | October 02, 2005 at 22:19